There seemed things Dino was not telling me. He secretly housed a young woman for weekly sex visits while living in with his girlfriend. He called me and sought healing. But in his seeking, Dino impaled himself repeatedly on false reliefs that only make matters worse for him.
What could hurt more than to try to heal yourself and in the process cause yourself even greater pain and misery?
Dr. L. Hatterer, professor of psychology at Cornell University Medical School, once wrote this about what I’ve been noting over and over again, “Addicts don’t use sex for affection or recreation, but for the management of pain or anxiety.”