For those experiencing loss, emotional wound, or relationship breakdown, holidays such as Christmas and New Year can be excruciatingly painful times. Death, divorce, separation, illness, financial lack, betrayal of friends or loved ones are great losses that can make holidays difficult.
Therefore, let me offer here some thoughts and tips on how to survive the holidays:
1. Prepare emotionally and physically, beforehand;
2. Remind your self that it’s a passing season and it will be over soon;
3. Don’t self-medicate or anesthetize with drugs, alcohol, overeating, partying, sexual acting out to numb the pain;
4. Manage your expectations and realities;
5. Force your self to socialize and not isolate or hibernate;
6. Call, text, or meet your therapist or closest friend when painful feelings get severe;
7. Keep up your physical exercises or workouts (e.g. gym, running, walking etc.), no excuses!;
8. Try to eat less and move more!
9. Eat healthy foods;
10. Reach other people who may be hurting and serve or converse with them;
11. Don’t allow people to push your buttons;
12. Pray and read God’s Word, get close to and trust God in all circumstances;
13. Remember the reason for the season;
14. Have fun!
15. Practice gratitude and contentment;
16. Educate your self, read self improvement books etc;
17. Focus on your unique purpose in life;
18. Enjoy your hobbies or passions;
19. Connect in new, healthy ways with your spouse or children, family member/s;
20. Reflect on and learn from your past mistakes to create a better you.
21. Always hope, for the best is yet to come.