British poet Thomas Eliot once wrote in 1935, “Human kind can not bear very much reality.” 30 years later, he as well as his loved ones were forced to bear reality. Thomas stopped writing – and breathing. It’s painful but it’s fact.
Reality is a world from which most mentally and emotionally disturbed individuals have escaped. They attempt to avoid facing it head-on through varied means, such as drugs, alcohol, sex, adultery, gambling, obsessions, depression or even rage, among others. Reality is a point then to which they must return before health and wholeness is restored. As clinical psychologist and author, Dr. Gary Collins put it, mental health is a “search for reality.”
Let me share a few pieces of thought I have about this significant healing component called “Reality.”
… You heal with reality when you see life as it is. Not what you think it should be. Not what you think others think it should be.
… Reality is your most secure, healthiest place on earth.
… Reality saves you from the lostness of distorted perception or illusion back to the real world of right and wrong, the false and the true.
… You heal with reality when you recognize that you don’t really know as much as you think you know.
… Reality is when you accept the fact that others view life differently and some may actually be right.
… You heal with reality when you learn that you cannot micromanage anyone.
… Reality is when you learn that everyone’s problem is not necessarily yours.
… You heal with reality when you learn that you can’t change everything in the world.
… You heal with reality when you discover that God, not you or another person, is the center of the universe.
… Reality is when you accept the fact that no one is perfect.