Here is a secret in conflict resolution in relationships: There is a significant difference between DEFENDING a person and SUPPORTING him or her.
SUPPORTING A PERSON means caring for his or her welfare and providing him aid and help. It means being honest enough to confront him or her about wrongdoing and abuses. It does not deny or protect wrongdoing
DEFENDING A PERSON, in the context of conflict in relationships, involves blind loyalty. You defend of cover up a person’s actions even when you know they’re wrong and abusive
So, in times of conflicts in relationships, it’s important to be defenders of truth instead of a defender of a person. To be supporter rather than a defender of any person in conflict.