You have a huge problem. Someone blames or judges you. Your emotions run high. Suddenly, you experience heart palpitations and anxiety attacks. You find your self unable to continue the conversation any longer. You burst into out of control rage and hurting words. You stood up and walked away. You’ve broken down.
A personal healing resource is the need to properly “cope with your self” in times of life stress and problem solving. It begins with a calm, objective assessment of your situation. You approach a problem realistically. You maintain emotional balance. If each new stressful situation or crisis threatens your emotional equilibrium, then you are unlikely to approach it sensibly.
Rather effective “coping with your self” requires that you put your problems in perspective. You break them down into life-sized dimensions, analyze them, and plan action steps. This is called “framing.” You take whatever steps are necessary to improve the situation or turn it around. Doing this will improve your mind and body. It means less room for heated situations to get out of hand.
All by itself, “coping with your self” is a crucial life skill. From childhood on, our life is a series of engagements with self. You may achieve some success in relationships and other aspects of life even though you don’t effectively “cope with your self” and maintain emotional balance. But such is a messy, damaging road to take. In other words, “coping with your self” in a healthy way will benefit you greatly. It opens doors, and spares you from many unnecessary heartaches.