In my practice, hurt people seeking therapy and recovery – no matter how young or old – always seem to express unending pain and regret. There is damage in the way they spent their time in the past. They don’t feel happy or fulfilled in their today. And they can’t move on into a brighter future.
British writer William Maugham, at age 64, wrote his autobiography entitled “Summing Up.” When asked why sum up his life at 64 when he was still in the best of health, Maugham quips, “An occasional glance at the obituary columns suggests that the 60s can be very unhealthy.” That’s a clear reality of life. But Maugham survived for another 27 years and died at age 91.
In contrast, in the headlines a few weeks now, I was somewhat shocked by what happened to 25-year-old Kristell. She was snatched from her home and brutally murdered by five young men. No one in her circle – from her family members to friends and office mates in the corporation where she had a thriving career – can expect or anticipate that Kristell’s young and promising life would end like this.
Whether age 16 or age 96, it’s therapeutic to always review our earthly journey. Because life is as fleeting as vapor, it is healthy that we make the most of our limited days. Have we been developing into the kind of persons that can honor God and men with our words, deeds, thoughts, feelings? Are we making the most of opportunities presented before us?
How much time do you have left? You are never sure. Life’s end comes at any age. You can’t change the way you spent your time in the past or avoid losses and mistakes that are already done. But from this moment on, you can resolutely choose to be better the remaining time of your life. You have the present moment – make the best of it!
“Certainly every man at his best state is but vapor.” (Psalm 39:5)