Nowadays, there are commonplace circumstances that make it hard to marry or be “coupled.” For others, the brokenness or dysfunction in their families has not made family companionship come their way. Of course, singles, solo parents, and divorced individuals have always been with us. Then there is also the prevalence of homosexuality as an alternative lifestyle increasingly accepted in our society.
Either by choice or by force of circumstances, a fast growing number of people today are living alone around the world.
In life situations like this, the oft-quoted saying stands true: “In acceptance lies peace.” So in what way exactly can that saying apply to the single state?
Catherine, now age over 90s, lives alone. She was once married but divorced due to her former husband’s infidelity and addiction. All her life, she worked hard to support her self and growing children. When her children became adults and started their own families, Catherine was left to live alone by her self.
Now in precarious health and limited material resources, she’s always asked if she ever felt lonely. To this, her response is: “Yes I live alone but I’m not lonely. How can I be lonely when God is with me?”
Solo but not lonely.
The example of the life of Catherine demonstrates that singleness need not be equated to loneliness. When thinking of singleness, we should not also overlook the reality of numerous singles around the world who find fulfillment and satisfaction in the solo state.
The magnificent accomplishments in all aspects of society, such as politics, the arts, or religion, would had been greatly undone if it were not for gifted single men and women.
If the single state is where you are now, both men and women, even though you prefer marriage, take heart. It can be good for you! For example, there are lots of miserable married couples today. Your state of singleness can be better than the state of marital misery.
More importantly, the secret of happiness and contentment in your single state is when it’s activated for God. It will overcome the loneliness usually accompanying singleness which is never forever.