“I’m over it. I just need a few ‘quick’ sessions to get me back on the road,” a woman explained to me. As it turned out, her therapy wasn’t as “quick” or instant as she had hoped. She wanted to move on fast.
However, she was not interested enough in fully resolving her painful issues and memories. Her past continued then to be in her present. It took her years before she finally saw the importance of dealing with one’s “unfinished business” in order to heal and be whole.
Many times, we want “instant solution” to our problems. In my effort to help people, they would like me to say something miraculous that will allow them to quickly recover. We want “magic,” not hard work.
The truth is, when we have been wounded at our deepest levels, we are in need of an adequate process that requires our active, committed participation as well as follow through. This is not easy and instant. But in the long run, it is the most profound, lasting way to psychological, emotional, and spiritual health.