When I was in high school and college, I almost experienced similar difficulties. Reflecting on those early developmental years of my student life, so many things changed.
After graduations, I “lost” cherished experiences and connections. Times became depressing to my self. I started to become lonely, take long walks. Nothing stays forever.
Indeed, many things can happen in our lifetime. A career change. Newfound love and marriage. Raising children. Relationships change. Old age, retirement. Illness. Death.
Good or bad, as the years go by, a life-changing experience may be lurking just around the corner. Any time, it can be ready to pounce! We simply don’t know when or how it will happen.
In the course of our self development, the only thing that does not change is change itself. So change is always something we need to anticipate and be prepared for. Whether we like it or not, in the limited supply of years we all have, change is sure.
“Without change there is no innovation, creativity, or incentive for improvement. Those who initiate change will have a better opportunity to manage the change that is inevitable,” wrote William Pollard.
In healing damaged selves, the implication of the positive benefit of change is immense. Only you can change your self and life. No one can do it for you.
Damaged selves may also be caused or exposed by impermanent relationships. The brokenness of human connection brings pain and disillusionment in our lives.
Existentially, since change is a constant, is there really no “forever?” The psalmist says, “You remain the same, and your years will never end” (Psalm 102:27). The psalmist is referring to God. Only in Him can we experience a permanent relationship because He doesn’t change.
With the self, we respond to God in relationship. He knows our wounds. He alone can heal us, ultimately. The more we discover our identity and the meaning of our days in Him, the more we can experience the reality of forever.