Pain is a place for the mind and soul. It’s an inevitable part of life. We’re often unable to fully understand the substance of our self. But our willingness to go deeper and experience the pains of life can make us find this true substance …. and wellness in spite of them.
Pain is not just physical. Mother Teresa was once quoted saying that the worst disease in the world is not leprosy or tuberculosis but the feeling of being unwanted, unloved, and abandoned by every one. Life’s pain also includes the non-physical, the emotional, relational, and spiritual pain. It’s so because the self is of many components, one but of many parts.
In psychotherapy, there is mostly this type of pain. A lot of psychopathology and socially unacceptable behavior is really a heart cry to be loved and accepted. Few people ever come out directly declaring this aspect of pain in their lives. But the behaviors and feelings manifested say it loud and clear.
How then do you find wellness … in spite of your pain?
Evelyn, a patient with severe heart disease and few friends or family to help her, shared her hints that we can all learn from: “I just accept and bear it and every moment be present in the Presence.” Anxiety is known to stimulate pain. Evelyn learned to conquer that through solitude and prayers. She learned to experience wellness amidst her varied pains, even at times eliminate the pain, by changing her attitudes, perceptions, and behaviors.
An anonymous writer once wrote about a secret formula: “Suffering is not a question that demands an answer; it’s not a problem that demands a solution; it’s a mystery which demands a Presence.”
Yes, you can experience wellness … in spite of your pain or suffering. Apply the secret.