When I was a boy onwards spiraling out of adolescence, I was painfully thin. I remember each time I dressed, I’ll put “extras” on my shoulder to look bulky.
In social events, I looked like a tall ectomorphic pole without the “extras!” It made me feel self conscious and had to repair my self view from this in years following.
It can be hard to stand against culture”s overemphasis on physical appearance. It tends to distort vision.
A client, Celia, had acquired a sense of worthlessness from others who jeered her “ugliness” and twisted form. Finally, it darkened her judgment and mental health as she accepted their assessment of her self based on externals.
The self is so much more than our body weight, physical appearance, or organic definition. Our “true self” operates on another deeper level of awareness.
If we get that, we won’t overreact to the “illusions” of culture or unkind feedback we encounter. Low self esteem – a negative view of self – is arrested.
So naturally even as we take care of our physical appearance and health, we know a crucial difference. The authenticity or core of our selves is essentially separate from the physical state of our selves.