In my practice of therapy and counseling, I’ve always found one thing: knowledge is never enough.
At best, I helped my counselees see and know the psychodynamics of their emotional or mental disturbances.
But, I’ve always realized that their knowing is not the same as their capacity to change their thinking, their emoting, and their behaving.
Their knowing has always been inadequate to stop them from self-sabotaging.
One counselee I had recently gained insight. Her rage or uncontrollable anger is traceable to her unconscious hatred of her mother.
In her work and social relationships, she realized how she has been “transferring” that feeling into other females who have similar traits to her mother.
Surely, she understands how she got the ways they are — but not what to do. Not the ability to apply what she already knows.
Insight and expression of repressed feelings alone don’t work in my sessions. Something needs to be incorporated in order for a broken person to heal.
That sets me to do some tall thinking about psychotherapy. I went back to tools of therapy and started giving application assignments, among others.
Data alone is not enough for deep and lasting personal change. The truth is, most of us are very good at identifying what’s wrong with us and our experiences.
Yet that knowledge in and of itself rarely produces deep level personal healing and recovery.
In fact, without the appropriate steps and frames, insight may result in “re-traumatizing” a hurting person.
So, make sure you have insights plus the experiential aspects in your recovery journey.