I think there are two ways to think.
Short-term and Long-term.
In therapy, those who are afraid to face and heal their pain are simply not willing to take short-term suffering.
“It’s hard to recall memories when I was abused and change habits,” said a patient with long years of addiction to alcohol, drugs, and sex.
Well, is it hard to live with addictions that damage one’s self and relationships?
Struggling though he was, this patient underwent therapy. He submitted to full accountability and life process change. He came to know his hidden deep-level wounds and “operated” on them.
Why? He learned that the pain of the process is just short-term.
He went through the short-term pain and eventually enjoyed the fruit of his labors in the long-term.
Same thing with other areas of our lives.
Health, for example. When you overeat and has heart attacks, you choose that life for yourself. No one forces you to do that.
You avoided the short-term pain of changing eating habits and exercising, but you didn’t realize you’re buying long-term pain.
Finances, another example. Lots of people are unhappy with their “secure salary.” They dream of owning their own business and becoming millionaires.
To accomplish that, you have to experience first the short-term pain of leaving your “secure salary,” working longer hours, and building your business.
If you say yes to short-term comfort, then you say no to long-term gains and profits.
Which one do you choose for your life? Short-Term or Long-Term?
The good news is, it’s never too late no matter how old you are.
But you have to make a choice on how you think.