American author, E.L. Doctorow, once wrote: “Writing is like driving at night in the fog. You can only see as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.”
It’s a powerful insight and metaphor. And we can apply it to life recovery or psychotherapy. It also resonates with other types of worthwhile work or creative activity.
If you’re anything like those overwhelmed by life’s crises, you hate being lost. You can’t stand the thought and reality that you’re on the wrong or difficult road.
That’s pretty human and normal.
Last night, I was in therapy work with a young couple. They’re on the verge of painful marital separation.
Both of them have been going through their issues for many years now. And any time, at least one of them was about to give up the journey. “I’m too tired,” as this one spouse said.
Regardless, a part of them was still able to make them push their fears aside. They sat up straight on their seats, and they kept driving.
Though the fuel gauge of their relationship was straying dangerously close to empty, they knew they just needed to keep going … despite the slowness, the darkness.
When something is truly important to us, we naturally don’t want to waste time and effort. We long for road markings. Or, helpful directions from one who’s been there.
Even slowly, we persist. We keep driving even in the fog.
Because we know … it’s worth the journey.
Secrets of Your Self: http://www.kobo.com/ph/en/ebook/secrets-of-your-self