Therapy is freedom work. It affirms and protects everyone’s God-given right to be free.
Yet I found that a lot of individuals, couples, families, and even cultures still choose to remain oppressed. Even when they realize they need to be free.
Slavery and oppression has become their home.
“I’ve a right to do whatever I want to do with her, she’s my wife,” said Ric in a marital session with his wife, Donna, of 20 years.
All throughout their marriage, Donna endured her husband’s physical beatings and verbal abuses. Sexually, she’s often overpowered and forced.
For such a long time, she never knew how or had the courage to set her self free. She made her husband’s slavery and oppression of her her home.
Slavery and oppression are of various kinds. This case is domestic/marital.
Other kinds are: political, economic, psychological or emotional, addiction, racial, parental, religious, corporate, informational, injustice to the poor, among others.
I find it appalling to see how much an oppressor, dictator, or slavemaster is able to control and dominate a victim’s life. He abuses and suppresses the victim down.
And the victim just submits and thinks it’s the way it is to be. Until the he or she feels at home to remain an oppressed slave.
I’m reminded of this man enslaved by drugs and vices. “I can’t help it!,” he claimed. When he lost everything, hit bottom, he finally chose to find ways to rehabilitate.
No oppressor wants a slave to be free. The slave has to awaken and fight to be free.
As Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. once declared, “Freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed.”